Archive for ‘Mindful Living’

April 15, 2013

Keeping The Balance

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Last week I reached the breaking point.  I could no longer keep up my current pace with business, classes, meetings, the school garden, planning a family reunion, writing and normal daily activities.  Something had to give. I’d like to say that I was so self-aware that I’d figured this out right away and handled it, but the reality is that often times it takes me a while to realize what is happening and instead I end up being in the middle of a full-blown stress storm, with my arms outstretched, fingers grasping for anything to slow things down, spinning ever faster until I have a breakdown.  Then, and only then, will I realize that it’s time for me to take a step back and make changes.

In any case, in the midst of my breakdown, I found myself reading a post from Kayse Pratt titled “A Life of Rest {Embracing Rest : Day 5}”.  Just the title alone made me laugh because the timing was spectacular.  In this post Kayse talks about what a life of rest would look like.  She’s not talking about lying around eating bon bons, instead she says:

A life of rest, I think, looks like your life, slowed down.

Your life, simplified.

It’s shedding the non-essentials and making the time for those things that truly are essential.

She continues:

It won’t be as easy as it sounds, no. Keeping your focus and shedding the rest will be painful and difficult. Going the opposite way of the fast-running crowd, well that will create some dissension.

What I’ve realized in the past few days, however, is that the dissension is not coming from others, as I’d expected, instead the dissension is coming from me.  When I mentioned to others where I’ve been, what I’m doing and where I’m “at”.  They haven’t scoffed, disagreed or argued whatsoever.  They haven’t acted like my choice to cut things out is lazy or unreliable.  No.  They haven’t done that at all.  Instead, they have been completely understanding and supportive, almost as if they were thinking, “You finally figured it out!”.  What I realized through this process is that it was me, keeping me in that place.  I’m the one who thought I was being lazy if I needed a break.  I’m the one who felt like I was not following through on a commitment if I took a step back from planning.  I was the one who thought I was being unreliable if I changed my mind or acknowledged that I had just taken on too much.  I realized that the only one preventing me from keeping the balance in my life, was me.

Please accept my apologies for the tardiness of “K”.  It’s late because I seeking balance in my life.  A balance I hope to regain and to retain going forward.

Kate

February 2, 2013

Connectedness

Breathe in. Breathe out.
Breathe in. Breathe out.
When you take a breath what do you think about?

Do it again. This time, think about your breath and the air you breathe.
Where does it come from?
Breathe in. Breathe out.
Breathe in. Breathe out.

Did you think about the plants and the trees?
I know. Many of us don’t want to stop and think about that. We feel weird. Or think others will think we’re weird.
But the plants and trees give us the gift of oxygen every second of our life.
And we, in return, give them carbon dioxide.
We have a relationship with the plants and the trees around us.

But it’s easy for us to forget.
It’s easy for us to forget that we have a relationship with the plants and trees on this planet.
But there’s more to it than that.
We have a relationship with every living species whether we want to admit it or not, we are connected.

When I stop to think about that, it makes me wonder, why is it then, that we find it so easy to abuse that relationship?
Why is it that we get so focused on “me” and lose focus on them?
Why do we find it so easy to ignore the earth and neglect the environment?

I know, some of us, myself included, like to think we’re being conscious of the environment. I recycle, I shut the lights off when I’m not using them, I don’t use chemicals in my yard, I compost and I try to be conscious of the Carbon Footprint I’m leaving behind, but the reality is, I like my life.

I like sitting on my iPad, typing away in my dining room, while the furnace runs to keep me warm on this frigid day. I like my car and the ability to go where I “need” to go whenever I want to.
I like the convenience of the stores that provide the “necessities” within a couple of miles of my home.

I like my life. And the reality is, to acknowledge that I’m connected to this planet, to the air, to the water, to the plants and the trees, and every living being from the microbes in the soil to the animals in the jungle on the other side of the world means I need to take responsibility for it.

Most of us would do anything to take care of our family and friends if they were in need. They are our blood, they hold a special place in our heart and we wouldn’t want to lose that. Yet to ask us to think about the earth, the environment or the living things around us is a different story. We take it for granted. In our lifetime, we’ve always had air to breathe, water at our disposal and food on our tables.

What if you chose not to feed your children or take care of an elderly grandparent or neighbor, how would you feel? Would you feel a pang of guilt in the pit of your stomach? Would you heart hurt knowing you’re neglecting them when you could be and should be doing something to help?

So why is it that when the plants and trees that supply the air that we breathe get neglected or the water that we take for granted that runs from our taps everyday gets wasted and when we abuse the resources that the environment provides for us, by using more than our “fair share” do we not feel equally guilty? Why do we find it so easy to disconnect ourselves from this?

What if we didn’t? What if, instead, when we go out the door or look up from our phones or out the windows of our house or cars, and we started paying attention to the air we breathe, the amount of water we use and the ways we could take care of the world around us a little better?
What if we treated the air, the water and the environment like family? Would you do anything differently? I know I would.

And when you really stop to think about it, we should. Because whether we want to acknowledge it or not, we are connected. We’re connected to every living thing around us just like we’re connected to our families and friends. Yes, we have a direct relationship with some, and a more distant relationship with others, but it’s no different than the relationship we have with our parents versus our distant cousins. And while we might feel a tighter bond with our mother or father or siblings than we do with our great aunt she is still family nonetheless.

So let’s pretend, even if it’s just for a moment, that the air is our mother, the water our father, the soil our siblings and the oil our grandparents. Let’s pretend we love them and value them the same as we do our families. Let’s pretend we care. Because if we do, we might change how we treat them. We may start paying attention to them. We may begin feeding them, nurturing them and watching out for them. We may restore the neglected relationship we have and start living in harmony again.

Let’s pretend for a moment that we are connected to the entire world around us. Let’s pretend that if we care for that world, that it will care for us.

Because guess what? She’s not called Mother Nature for nothing. We are connected.

Kate

February 1, 2013

Afraid

It’s Friday.  Five Minute Friday.  Today’s word is Afraid.

Afraid is a big word. It’s a scary word.  But what pops in my mind is that to be afraid means not to trust.  Not trusting in yourself, not trusting in others and not trusting in the Universe or whichever higher being you believe in.

Fear strikes all of us, but I think it’s important to catch it, be aware of it and when it strikes, when we acknowledge we are afraid, we can reign it back in.  Because when we think we are afraid of something, it’s usually a fear of the unknown.  If we can grab our fear, check it out and figure out what it’s all about, often times we will realize that our fears are really pretty irrational and often times out of our control.

Fear, too, can be limiting.  When I’m afraid, I become paralyzed.  I often psych myself out so badly that it causes me to take no action.  But if I can acknowledge the fear, figure out what it is that I’m afraid of and put take action on the things I can and let go of the things that are out of my control in trust in God and the Universe to take care of me, I will no longer be afraid.

I hope the same goes for you.

Kate

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January 10, 2013

Be Like a Jedi and Live Mindfully

My family has been on a bit of a Star Wars kick lately. We’re watching the movies “in order”. Although that means something different to me than it does my son, because to me, being a child of the 1970s, the first Star Wars movie was indeed Star Wars…. Not The Phantom Menace, and it truly was called Star Wars, not A New Hope, but that’s another topic for another day.

Anyway, while watching these movies, I realized a theme throughout. A rather unexpected theme than one might think considering the focus is on galactic battles, but if you stop to listen, there is a recurring theme about mindful living, more specifically, being mindful of your thoughts.

Some may think that mindful living is something new, but obviously they are mistaken, as Star Wars proves, mindful living has been around for eons. No, wait, Star Wars is in the future… or is it? It takes place in a galaxy far, far away, but do they tell us the timeframe? I might need to watch them again, my memory is failing me.

Anyway, regardless of the timeframe, the message is loud and clear. In Attack of the Clones, Anakin Skywalker was getting a bit frustrated and began getting angry. Obi-Wan Kenobi warned Anakin, “You are focusing on the negative Anakin. Be mindful of your thoughts.”

Holy heads up, people! I hate to spoil it for you if you haven’t seen it, but since Star Wars has been around a while I figure I’m safe to say… See what happens! Anakin Skywalker eventually becomes Darth Vader! in other words, if you aren’t living mindfully, being mindful of your thoughts, you switch to the Dark Side! It doesn’t get much worse than that!

So if you’re having a bad day or going through tough times, remember to to be like a Jedi, keep your eyes focused on the good in the world, on what you can do instead of what you can’t, and in the good of others. And if you doubt whether mindful living is the way to go, don’t listen to me, listen to Obi-Wan and use the force because even Jedi Knights live mindfully.

Kate